My mother was watching all of this perched on the deck of my childhood home. Her response touched my heart when I heard her say, "He gets it from his mothers."
Wow! As I think back nearly twelve years ago when Donna and I were planning a life together, I remember struggling to find peace with my mother's disapproval of the choices I made and my own belief that I belonged with Donna. My parents decided not to attend our Commitment Ceremony in May of 2000. How I longed to have her share my joy that I had finally found the right partner with whom to spend my life.
|Hunter manifests the best of both parents|
I distinctly remember the time during which Donna and I were pouring over the choices we needed to make to realize our dream of having children . I so wanted to share each moment with my mother; however, at that time in our relationship, our conversations were strained and cluttered with small talk,designed to hide the important things that needed to be discussed. So, I was thrilled to hear the change in her voice when I told her Donna was pregnant and I intended to adopt our baby to share parental rights. I think that up until that point, she was fearful that our commitment to each other wasn't stable enough to have children. Looking at it from her vantage point, I had moved to New Jersey to be with Donna in March and by December, we were pregnant! It was analogous to a straight couple coming back from their honeymoon with a bun in the oven.
Today, I love that we have come to love and respect one another and really enjoy each others company. Now, the moments of silence between us are nothing more than pauses in a conversation we started more than 40 years ago when I was born.
I will agree with my mother that Hunter has gotten much of his talent from his mothers. It only makes sense, since so much of what I bring to the world is because of my her.